Second, I can look at this as OPPORTUNITY, opportunity to pursue my writing while living with my amazing family who are willing to take care of me. Sure, it may mean living in Hesperia, one of the last places I thought I'd be living, but I can see it as an adventure and not as a set back. This may also mean working in retail again, which I'm not going to lie, makes me want to cry out of self-pity and dread. Retail is one of the highest causes of victim mentality I personally have ever experienced. Let me be clear, there is nothing wrong with retail (other than the customers and the occasional co-worker who is a jerk) many make a successful career out of it and they are the real heroes of this world for what they have to deal with, but me, I have passion and creativity, retail to me is as passionless as math or science (in my opinion obviously). However, I do have bills to pay so retail for me is a means to an end or more bluntly: a way to "survive." I suppose those are my only two options, to think of 2012 as the year life screwed me over or to see it as an opportunity to succeed in the areas I care about. I've done an ok job so far writing about all of this so I guess I'm seeing this as an opportunity :)
Example B. Relationships. I place a lot of my happiness on the relationships in my life. Probably too much. I know it can be part of being a girl: it's no secret girls over-analyze things until we find a solution we like. Notice I said a solution we LIKE not a solution that is RATIONAL or TRUE. I've realized it's all very simple, we either hold on too tightly to relationships or let things play out how they play. I'm learning to let things play how they play because any time I've held on too tightly to someone I lose them and I make stupid choices. My current status with this is to take life one day at a time and CHOOSE to be doing things that make me happy and not think or stress about the people in my life. Because of it, I'm becoming the woman I'd like to be in my relationships and that is so encouraging for me.
I no longer buy into the argument that unless things are easy the situation is "bad." At the end of the day, I am responsible for my life and the choices in them. I have to choose on a daily basis how I am going to behave in my relationships rather than going with how I feel from one moment to the next. Because honestly, I can't trust my feelings all of the time, and often, in relationships, you have to rationally work through things in your mind. This is a healthy behavior that will ultimately help me to work out what is really going on and to sort through my feelings to find out where they come from and what is valid and what is an insecurity.
Another important aspect to successful relationships is to be yourself and date someone who likes who YOU are, not who you PRETEND to be. It may mean being single for longer periods of time, but I can speak from experience it's way better to be with someone who likes you for you as opposed to the alternative: spending time trying to be who you think they want you to be. So these are just two examples of how my attitude is affecting my life. How I approach these situations will affect my experiences in life. Ultimately my attitude determines the outcome, and I'm tired of having a bad or negative attitude. So bring it on life!