I couldn't help but compare those sunflowers to my brief relationship: short and disappointing. But then two things happened in the month of December I found encouraging. The flowers did die and disappear altogether (just like the relationship) but I found I didn't care. It didn't seem as big a deal anymore and that's because I was moving on and not caring whether those flowers were there or gone. We all know that just because we move on doesn't mean we aren't still sad. So when my sister and me had a LOTR marathon after the flowers disappeared, I learned something that helped me get over it completely.
My favorite character in LOTR is Sam. Faithful to Frodo when he no longer deserves it, Sam stays the course and never changes who he is. He stays faithful to the end. Sam encourages Frodo, asks nothing for himself, makes sacrifices, and sees straight through Gollum. Samwise led a pretty un-phenomenal existence pre journey to Mordor with Frodo; He was Frodo's gardener. But he ended up being the main reason why Frodo succeeded.
"There's no point in carrying anything we're not going to need."
Turns out Sam is just informing Frodo that if they are to succeed in getting through Mordor they must get rid of any unnecessary baggage. I'm sure you can see where I'm going with this :)