Love isn't a feeling, it's a decision.
I read this for the first time at a relatives house when I was in the sixth grade. I saw it on their hall closet painted on a red heart door hanger. It hit me to my core and it was in that moment I realized I knew virtually nothing about love. I'd always thought love was a feeling, it was kind of a hard truth to realize when I read that and it wouldn't be until my early and into my later twenties (and still learning this!) that I would realize how true this statement is. I've loved once in my life, and more deeply than I'd ever imagined possible. When that person's actions broke everything I knew to be true for me, I realized that love was selfless. I still cared for him over what he had done to me.
I realize this one may be met with quite a lot of disagreement. After all, it's been said that the ones we love most are the ones who hurt us the most. But maybe I'm just thinking of the only love I mentioned in the above lesson. I was hurt, yes, but forgiving him, really forgiving him, was easier than breathing. How to move on from the hurt though, well, that's not something I've figured out yet.
Love isn't about receiving, it's about giving.
There's one particular person that jumps into my mind when I say or write this statement. I don't think anyone has infuriated me more than the individual I'm thinking of. They've pushed me away, played games, ignored me, been a jerk... but I don't think I've ever had more clarity when it comes to anyone than when I think of this friend. Our entire friendship has been built on what I've done/been for this person, and though I wish we could have a genuine friendship, this person has taught me more about love than perhaps anyone in my life. I'm not a doormat in this relationship (though I've certainly had my moments) but God has taught me that there are a lot of broken people in this world who may never be able to love me back, but when I choose to love from the perspective of giving instead of receiving, it truly frees me to bless and love this friend without wanting anything in return.
Jesus is the only man whose love will make me whole.
I've long desired for a man who will think his life has begun when he meets me... I'm not asking for much am I? But rest assured, God has performed a miracle in my heart and I can honestly say I don't have this particular mindset anymore :) Sure, it would be pretty incredible to trust someone so much I feel safe to marry them. It's hard to imagine that nowadays, what with dwindling men attending church or putting Christ as the center of their lives.... but God showed me a long time ago that the only love from a man that guarantees 100% of the time 24/7 365 is Jesus. I'd say I'm doing alright!
I don't know where you're at right now with your happiness, whether in a relationship or out of one, but either way, Jesus is the Way the Truth and the Life, the one who said we should "Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness and all these things (food and clothing to be specific) will be given to you as well."